How many
activities have I signed my kids up for in the past 20 years? I should have
kept a tally. Fall Soccer, Winter Soccer, Spring Soccer –times 1000, Baseball,
Basketball, Dance, Dance and more Dance – Parkour, piano, Special Olympics,
Football, Karate…..OK, I’m just going to stop. This will take forever.
As I look
back at everything we have ever done, there is something they all had in common…
I was always
thrilled when a practice or game was cancelled!
That always meant that I had a free day or night at home where I could
do whatever I wanted! Well, I mean – I got to do the laundry or wash those
stains out of my carpet:/ How sad that I get excited about that!
There is one
activity that I didn’t put in that list. This activity didn’t have that common
denominator. This activity took up every single evening, Monday thru Friday.
Eventually, it even took up our days and Saturdays too. You would think that
eventually, any one of us would grow weary and look forward to the day that
this would end.
We never got
to that point. No one wanted this to end. This was –
MARY POPPINS
In November,
4 of my kids, Samantha, Max, Theresa, and Ben all auditioned for Mary Poppins
that would be performed through Calvary Bible College. We LOVE the director
whom we affectionately call, Ms. Bobbie. She was the director for the
homeschool theater several years ago until she cut her schedule down to one
directing job at Calvary. Now, whenever she needs younger people for her
performances, the Christys are on that golden e-mail list.
I had high
hopes that Samantha, Max and Theresa would make the cast list. I was unsure
about Ben. He was called back for the lead role of Michael Banks and nothing
else. If he didn’t get this role, he may not be in the play at all. When the
kids went to the 2nd audition (the call backs), Samantha, Max and
Theresa circled Ms. Bobbie to tell her of their reservations about Ben. They
warned her that he was obnoxious, couldn’t focus, disobedient, goofed off too
much – the normal complaints anyone has toward their little brother.
Apparently,
Ms. Bobbie saw something in Ben that appealed to her. Little Michael Banks was
an obnoxious, disobedient goof ball. Hmmmm. Jackpot!
The cast
list was sent out that Ben got the part of Michael Banks! I was jumping and
screaming in excitement while Samantha, Max and Theresa were moaning and
sighing and pleading their case that Ben could never last in this role. Truth-be-told,
I had my reservations too. OK, they were more than reservations. I was pretty
confident that he would be booted from the play within the first week. Two
weeks tops! Fortunately, there were 2 roles for Jane and 2 roles for Michael.
If Ben couldn’t step up to the plate, there was another Michael to take his
place.
Days and
weeks of rehearsals were going by. Each time the kids stepped inside the door,
I asked, “How was rehearsal?” accompanied very quickly with, “How was Ben???!”
WHAT?! These
are words that have never been spoken in this house. Things were changing
around here. Everyone was seeing Ben in a different light. I had been telling
him for years that he has what it takes to make the greatest saint or the
greatest sinner. God gave him the qualities to be exceptional at whatever he
desires. These are the same qualities that can drive a multitude of people into
utter despair and emotional turmoil. My job is to steer him to use these
qualities for what is good and holy. It’s a slow process.
My entire household is turning upside down. The
complaints were turning into compliments. It had been several weeks and I
haven’t gotten that expected e-mail about his behavior. How long will this
last? I was having proud mommy moments that I didn’t want to end.
The
rehearsals were coming close to the end and Ben never showed any signs that he
was in Mary Poppins at home. He didn’t come home laughing and giggling like the
other kids. He didn’t tell me every detail about rehearsal. This is Ben…….
This is Ben
while everyone talks and laughs and tells me how wonderful he is. Stop. Wait…..I
am having a de-ja-vu moment right now. He is just like his brother, Nick. This
is Nick……
This is Nick
while everyone tells me how social and wonderful, kind, and mature he is.
I’M SO CONFUSED!!
Shake it off
Katy! God will explain this to me later.
It is time
for the very first Mary Poppins debut! 15 minutes before we leave the house and
head off for the play, I get an e-mail saying that the lead character for
Nelius (the talking, singing statue) was out of the play and Max will be taking
his role. Max’s eyes light up. He is shocked. Then scared and nervous. He had
been the understudy for only a couple weeks and was convinced that nothing
would come of it. He had never even worn the costume or make up. Would he even
be able to do his back flip while dressed up like a stone?! I’m so glad he
didn’t tell me how nervous and stressed he was until after the play was over.
Friday night
arrives. It is night #2 for the kids but #1 for Ben. I was more excited than I
had ever been in my life. I got there an hour early but it easily could have
been 2 or 3 hours. All I did is wait for time to pass so I could get to this
play. Every person I made eye contact with made me want to shout, “I’m Michael
Banks mom!!” I held back though. What if he totally bombed his part and
embarrassed himself on stage. OH. MY. GOSH! ……What if he passes gas on stage??!
That will totally RUIN the next 3 scenes as the stage managers try to get him
to stop laughing! I would have to leave with a bag on my head. Better not
announce that I’m related until the end of the play.
All of the
plays were great! I know that Ben had to have made the director nervous. He was
a little unpredictable. The other actors were never sure what to expect from
him. Ben acted like an ornery boy even when it wasn’t in the script. I’m quite
sure Ms. Bobbie was not biting her nails when the other Michael Banks was on
stage. He was professional and obedient. Ben wanted to venture outside the box
and test how far he could go. It was VERY clear to the audience that he was
having fun on stage.
We can’t
forget that I had 3 other kids in the play! Max played a triple role. He was a
banker, a chimney sweep and Nelius. He told me that it was absolutely crazy
back stage. Two people were trying to dress him while a third was painting his
face or cleaning it off…..or painting it again. He said the only time he got to
relax was on stage. That is the story of our life anyway. Roy can only really
relax at work – or in Iraq or Afghanistan. Max is just taking after his dad.
Samantha was
a chimney sweep which seemed like the climactic scene in the entire play – the
scene that puts the audience on the edge of their seat.
The magical
experience of the performances was not why we didn’t want the play to end. That
was just a bonus. Roy & I got to hear 3 little chatterboxes (Ben just
played CandyCrush) after every rehearsal. My kids were talking and laughing and
sharing stories. Even unpleasant stories were enjoyable to talk about.
Calvary
Bible College is a non-denominational Christian college. The Christy’s were the
only Catholics in the bunch. What I enjoyed the most about this experience is
all the conversations my kids had about their Catholic faith. If they couldn’t
answer a question, they asked me, but THIS TIME, they cared about the answer!
It makes this momma’s heart happy when my kids care about their faith and share
it with others. My kids weren’t questioned just here and there. Every night,
they came home with more topics of discussion. Even during the day, they were
texting apologetics to their fellow cast mates. It was AWESOME! I wouldn’t be
as strong in my faith if it wasn’t for my Protestant brothers and sisters
questioning me. I had no choice but to read and learn. Mary Poppins has made my
kids learn and love their faith.
God was a
visible reality in this show. I couldn’t step into that building without
feeling God’s presence all around. His grace was showered upon the students and
staff. All of the students were filled with the love of Christ and would shine
through to each other. That makes for a building full of blissfully happy
people. Who would want that to end?
I rushed. I
left the house frequently. I misunderstood the schedule a couple times which
got me in troubleL I packed loads of peanut butter and jelly sandwiches. Roy
spent his weekends building the set. I signed too many papers to count. I
sprinted out of co-op – screaming for Ben to get in the van because we were
late for a scene show I forgot about and yelling at the closest teenage to take
over my Science class lab. I had to stay home with only little kids every
evening with no older kids to help me. We didn’t eat dinner as a family more
than once a week. We didn’t do this – or that – or the other thing. We were
late for everything outside of rehearsals from January to March. And guess
what? We still did not want it to end! De-ja-vue moment again…..This is a lot
like being open to life. God’s presence and graces, trusting Him, and letting
Him work HIS “magic” makes all the sacrifices joyful. Joyful sacrifices!
The only
thing that kept me from weeping like a baby when the final performance was over
is when I thought about the few students that had their final performance after
spending 4 years at this wonderful college. While my kids played in 3 musicals
in 5 years, these seniors participated in every play throughout the school
year, lived in the dorms with their cast mates, and took acting and other
classes with the same people – for FOUR years! They ended the best years of
their life with a bang and the tears were flowing.
These are 3
of the seniors. Inseparable twins, Luke and Paul and their good friend, Moriah.
They are awesome people. They have already had an amazing youth. I can only
imagine what God has in store for them as adults. God has a unique plan for
everyone but only a few are open, ready and excited to dive right in and find
out what it is – and these are 3 of them. What a blessing to have known them as
long as I have.
Ms. Andrew tries to give Michael Banks cod liver oil but for a brief moment, Winifred thought it was for her. LOL
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Mary Poppins was played by Ben's Mama Kangaroo in Seussical
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A lot changes in just 2 years
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By the way –
I DID get that behavior e-mail about Ben just a week before the play was to
debut. But look how long it took! He had a good run and had an extraordinary
ending.
This is Ben as the audience was trying to tell him how wonderful he was.
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